The Only Relationship Question You Ever Need To Answer

Over the years, a fair number of people have approached my wife and me for relationship advice. I guess we look like we have our shit together.

When people ask us for the secret to our marriage, Jan often quotes an old NPR story about a couple that had been married for something like 70 years. “What’s our secret? Frequent separations and gradual loss of hearing.”

It gets a laugh, which is what we’re going for. But it’s not true. We live in each other’s pockets. For the first five years Jan and I were together…