I’ve always had this idea of bravery in my head that was distinctly Gryffindor-ian in nature.
I noticed that I would be quick to roll my eyes whenever Harry would go off and do things that seemed incredibly dumb, against what everyone else had asked him to do and against what I viewed as “common sense”. I’d be quick to diminish the guts it took on account of how reckless those acts appeared (it didn’t help that his teenage-y frontal lobe was not yet fully developed, making impulse control a likely struggle, or his extensive history of trauma, making fighting…
“I was cold, I’ve been told. I often write stories about women who are perceived as cold and resent that perception. I write these women because I know what it’s like to have so much warmth roiling beneath the skin’s surface, ready to be found.”
— Roxane Gay, Hunger
There have been variations to the label and colorful descriptive adjectives attached to it, ranging from closed off, too independent, high maintenance to arrogant, distant, self-absorbed, etc.
I’ve been long wanting to unpack this essentialized “coldness”, and after reading Gay’s book I found myself itching to verbalize years of theorizing and…
For Part I, click here.
In this second part, I want to focus on women’s therapy and/or punishment in the correctional context and the “mad vs bad” paradigm often observed when juxtaposing male and female criminality.
Amidst the androcentric research on criminality and correctional therapeutic interventions, a bright exception is Kendall’s research. The correctional context, according to the women in her study, was inherently stripped of personal choices and independent action — but these women were still, somewhat paradoxically, required to make “positive choices” and become “responsible citizens”.
So these women are essentially asked to take control of their lives…
Remember when these two took down that quintessentially misogynistic piece of demon garbage named Billy? Because I do. It crosses my mind pretty regularly.
I’m a sucker for the “we’re mortal enemies but we’re putting aside our shit cause there’s greater evil lurking about” trope and seeing Cordelia and Lilah in action together even for just a brief moment in time is fuel enough for me. …
I think it was around age 13 or so that I knew I wanted to be a psychologist. While I have since actively pursued said dream, the way this has unfolded has shifted throughout the years.
For the longest time, I saw correctional counseling in my professional future; often as the only future I wanted to picture. As a very passionate advocate of therapeutic praxes at the intersection of systems, that was the ultimate goal. …
The European singing Olympics.
Entertainment on steroids.
A pre-arena Hunger Games talent show.
Growing up in Greece in the 90’s-00’s was a blessing, as in the early 2000s is when the country started getting pretty serious about its Eurovision participation.
It started when “Die For You” by Antique came in 3rd in 2001 and folks were like “shit, we could DO THIS GUYS” (we had only made it twice to #5). We recreated the Paparizou recipe (she was in Antique) in 2005 and won the damn thing.
So, every year, as Eurovision times approached, we’d vote on the…
Τα δύο αγόρια που ξεκίνησαν μακρυμάλλικα και ιδεαλιστικά από Ranger of the North/ παιδί της ΚΝΕ σε εντολοδόχους της Μέσης Γης/Μεσογείου.
This has been a rough couple of months, y’all.
We’ve all felt it, but it’s hit some much harder than others.
While some of us are just now realizing what jeopardy tastes like, just now learning that our rights are anything but inalienable, that our needs are disposable and our bodies’ sovereignty questionable, there are others who have been living on the razor’s edge of jeopardy, that are now being pushed over the edge.
I’m a school psychologist in training, so I spend a lot of my time working in public schools and reading/writing about psychology and education. To be…
If you know me, then it is likely that you a) know I have a quote journal that I love more than people in my life, and b) have probably heard me quote Carl Rogers every now and then; most often, you’ll hear me invoke the paradox of which he spoke:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
I will do my best to try and create a humanistic psych/person-centered therapy 101 write-up and communicate why this type of therapy has been a solid component of my rather eclectic psychotherapeutic…
Does this ever happen to you — do you ever suddenly think of something that you used to know in incredible detail that is now almost entirely replaced by new trivia/formed thoughts/experiences and you’re just sitting there engulfed in sadness for a bit, mourning all that precious knowledge that’s either gone or impossible to retrieve? No?? Just me?
Fearing the scarcity of my long-term storage and retrieval capabilities and because of my sentimental relationship with knowledge itself, I often find myself in need of re-acquaintance with past facts/information, especially if they were personally formative in nature.
The following write-up contains…
greek/ feminist/ nerd/ school psych/ cylon, maybe