A Psychological Explanation Why You Can’t Get Over Your Short-lived Relationship
Any of us could fall into the traps of cognitive biases and lose ourselves in the misguided pursuit of our exes.
I have a friend who went through a break up not long ago.
Saying she was obsessed with her ex is an understatement. Even months after the breakup, she couldn’t stop contacting him and wouldn’t stop talking about him.
I wasn’t surprised at how she handled the breakup because their relationship crashed in the most cliche fashion — he swept her off her feet within a short amount of time, he suddenly pulled away, and when she voiced her concern about their incompatibility or his lack of effort, he broke up with her instantly like he had never been hot on her before.
She was left heartbroken and confused. She was perplexed by how easy it was for him to cut contact with her. She wondered what she had done wrong to push him away. Even after he revealed to her through his post-breakup treatment of her that they were not a good fit, she couldn’t get over how perfect he had been in the beginning and how wonderful her life would be had they ended up together.
