Earth is far from enlightened. I would guess that maybe one in a million people are enlightened…one in a million minds is no longer self-sabotaging with attachment to external events.

I have a strong sense of what an enlightened planet would feel like. Perhaps in a previous life I lived on such a planet. Or maybe it’s the lingering residual DNA memory of living on a pre-agricultural, pre-marriage, pre-ownership earth. Whatever it is, the vision is strong within me, and I can see our species heading in the right direction.

The one message I would like to share with every human on the planet is that not only does attachment lead to suffering, but we can no longer exclude romantic relationships from this wisdom if we prefer peace. In other words, if you have become non-attached in relation to material things and so forth, that’s a good start…but if your happiness is still dependent upon the choices of others, you will suffer.

Even if your lover “behaves” as you would prefer, then you will still suffer because you know that love is not about behaving according to rules. Only by releasing the concept of ownership and discarding labels such as “my wife…my husband…my primary…my secondary” can we allow ourselves and others to be seen in an authentic light.

Much of what currently passes for polyamory still operates within the confines of following rules. Many who are no longer in monogamous arrangements are still trying to maintain a certain relationship “form” such as a triad, quad, etc. Additionally, there are a large number of people who consider themselves poly who place limitations on the gender of the people who their partner(s) are able to love. None of these restrictions have anything to do with love. They are simply fear-based attempts to minimize loss, and preserve attachments.

On an enlightened planet there would be no fear because everyone would know they are whole. Each individual would recognize that love and sex are enhancements to life, but not necessary for peace. Nobody would be interested in trying to control another person because even if they achieved “success” by controlling another, damage would be done because limiting free will only perpetuates fear and suppression.

An enlightened planet would remove love and sex from the legal realm. We would no longer be forced to choose a “special one” for reasons related to taxes or insurance. By removing our romantic feelings from the realm of societal law, there would be no need to spend energy creating hierarchy amongst those we love. We would simply feel what we feel in the moment, without needing to make anyone “less than” another.

When we are enlightened we’ll understand that what another person feels in their heart, or chooses to do with their body, need not throw us into a frenzy since we will know we are fine with a solidity that can’t be shaken.

We will no longer have our minds saturated with morality plays disguised as “entertainment” in which characters are taught that loving more than one person is “bad behavior” that always ends up in pain.

We will allow another to leave if that is in their best interest. With a level of empathy that goes beyond selfish preferences, we will understand that we are not a perfect match for every person we find desirable. We will trust that if a relationship ends it is ultimately for the good of both people because more perfect lessons await.

Once we are enlightened we will begin to shift our focus from basic survival to enhancing the planet (and beyond) with creativity and wisdom. We will realize that our true nature is bliss, and all the needless suffering that we created in the past was simply to understand who we are not…leading to better knowing who we truly are.

So how do we reach such an enlightened world? How do we free ourselves from the tyranny of attachment to the choices of others?

The answer is to practice…beginning right now…in all of our relationships. We practice until our mind is aligned with peace, and it becomes clear that releasing control is the only sensible way to live…the only sensible way to love.

Peace, Chris

Check out Chris’s (pen name, Mystic Life’s) book Spiritual Polyamory

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