Breathing Through Insecurity

Allowing feelings to just be

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Sometimes, things happen that don’t go the way you’d anticipated.

The situation is out of your control. There’s nothing you can do to change it.

It’s hard to allow difficult feelings, because they’re not pleasant. Maybe, though, those challenging feelings are actually really appropriate for the situation.

After all, you probably wouldn’t want to feel happy at a funeral, would you?

What’s the alternative, then, to trying to push away or suppress the negative feelings?

Don’t let them take up permanent residence, but give space for them, let them be there.

I sometimes experience anxiety as part of my depression. It’s very physical, and usually doesn’t have a cognitive element. Because of that, I can’t try to think my way out of it. I just have to sit with it until it eases up on its own.

I try to apply that to other situations I don’t have the power to control. I need to sit with it, breathe through it, and let it be while it needs to be here.

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Mental health blogger | MH Nurse | Living with depression | Author of 3 books, latest is Managing the Depression Puzzle |

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