Day 37–100 Days To A Healthy Relationship With Food
People hate clichés, because they’re old and boring and worn out and predictable.
But guess what, they are all those things because they have chimed with so many people for so long. So, I love them.
Yesterday I fell off the horse. I had my first “not on track” day of this project so far. It wasn’t a major unseating and the horse ran off into the distance. Just a loss of balance and a touch of the ground with one foot. I’ve still got one hand on the reins and one foot in one stirrup.
As you can tell, I also love pushing analogies to breaking point too.
So, how to get back on the horse?
Here are my Top 3 inspirational quotes for dealing with failure, dusting yourself down, and getting back to work. Call them clichéd if you like, that’s fine by me.
1. The Golf One
Gary Player is a legendary golfer. He is remembered for his brilliant skills on the course, but also for this story:
“I was practicing in a bunker down in Texas and this good old boy with a big hat stopped to watch. The first shot he saw me hit went in the hole. He said, “You got 50 bucks if you knock the next one in.” I holed the next one. Then he says, “You got $100 if you hole the next one.” In it went for three in a row. As he peeled off the bills he said, “Boy, I’ve never seen anyone so lucky in my life.” And I shot back, “Well, the harder I practice, the luckier I get.” That’s where the quote originated.” — Author unknown, article originally from Golf Digest Magazine
There it is, right there:
“The harder I practice, the luckier I get”
Improvement is about failure. You learn by making mistakes. You can’t get things right 100% of the time. But the more you practice (which means, by the way, spending a lot of time doing the same thing over and over and very slowly getting less wrong and more right), the “luckier” you get.
It’s not luck, it’s practice. Keep getting it wrong. Slowly you’ll begin to get it less wrong. Then get a few right. Then more and more right. Obvious but true. We all need reminding of this from time to time.
2. The Poetry One
A lot of people (including me until about five minutes ago) think this quote is from Shakespeare, but it’s actually by a different literary heavyweight, Alfred Lord Tennyson:
“I hold it true, whate’er befall,
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
’Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.”
Last stanza of ‘In Memoriam A.H.H. 1849’, Alfred Lord Tennyson (1809–1892)
The whole stanza is brilliant, but it’s those last two lines that everybody knows:
“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”
This is actually a poem born out of grief, not romantic heartbreak (Tennyson wrote it about a friend of his who died).
If you don’t have a go, you never know. You’ve got to try. You may not succeed, or you may just succeed a little bit, but that much, and even the act of trying is worth it.
So if you fail, you haven’t really failed, because you tried. You took action. All anyone can ever do is their best.
3. The Ice Hockey One
Wayne Gretzky may be the greatest ice hockey player of all time. He’s certainly the best known (for anyone who doesn’t know much about ice hockey, like me).
This quote is often attributed to Gretzky, but its exact origins are a little bit of a mystery (maybe a coach said it to him, who knows?):
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
On first reading this seems to be saying the same thing as “loved and lost” — you have to try.
But the two quotes make different points.
“Loved and lost” is all about dealing with the feeling of failure after you try and don’t succeed.
This Gretzky quote is about rejecting the option to not try in the first place. So they work really well in tandem after a failure. In fact, all three of these quotes work brilliantly together.
- Tennyson re-assures you it’s OK to fall off the horse.
- Gretzky makes you get back on it.
- Player keeps you riding it.
…and we’re good to go again.
36/37/100 (Number of days goals met/ number of days into project/ 100)
Be responsible about food and weight management. Research a healthy weight, and healthy methods of weight management for you physically and mentally. Remember, you are not defined by what you weigh. I am not a nutritionist.