About a year ago, I found myself reading up on advice for freelancers. One of the most poignant pieces of advice was a simple reminder: what makes someone want to work with you, i.e. instead of working with someone else who might have a similar skill set, is you.

You see, whether or not you’re aware of it, you bring a special set of unique characteristics to your work which makes working with you more appealing to some people than it would to others.

Not surprisingly, this is something that’s true in both life and in business. The same thing which makes you incredibly attractive to one person (or client, or employer..) is the same thing which makes you unattractive to another. And that’s okay, because, if you think about it, it means that the people who are the best fit for each other are going to be seeking each other out. The people who appreciate what you have to offer will want to work with you, and the one’s who don’t will look elsewhere.

I used to feel a lot of anxiety whenever I was hanging out with someone, or working with a client, because I felt like I had to prove to them that I was sufficiently interesting/good at my job/insert-adjective-here in order to make them feel like this was a worthwhile use of their time. But, now, I realize that I don’t need to do that anymore, because that’s a decision that they’ve already made.

If someone is spending time with you (or working with you, or hiring you for a project..), it’s because they’ve chosen you. And that, to me, is incredibly special.

Jana Marie is a Croatian-born writer living amidst the restorative embrace of the Canadian Prairies.

Through her writing, she examines the interplay between self and society as she works to both illuminate and explore the power of contemplative thinking. Her recently completed two-year project, 100 Mindful Days, which combines teachings from the worlds of personal development, self-care, and wellness, will soon be her first book.

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