Why is love so fucking complicated?

It’s Friday and I am sitting in a swirling office of happy hour laughter, conversations and music. The wine and beer are flowing — and so are the stories. So far, I have heard two stories of heartbreak. Though I’ve been married for 5 years (together for 11) the sheer craziness of love still blows my mind every time.

In all of its glory, love can give you some of the highest moments you will ever experience. In those shitty times, there can be no greater hurt than that of love rejected.

Many of us date to find that one person we can imagine forever with — you know, happily ever after and all that jazz. Here’s a secret for you singles that married couples don’t talk about much.

You can be married and still totally get your heart broken.

You can also be married and fall deeply in love over and over again.

That’s because there is no happily ever after and I think that is a good thing. It keeps us on our toes. Keeps us finding ways to explore the depths of love, happiness and heartache. Keeps us grateful for what we have and where we are at and where we have been.

The next time you are wishing for a happily ever after, remember it doesn’t exist. Our happily ever after is this moment, right now. Happily ever after is today because we are alive and breathing. And as long as we are alive we have another shot at love. Even if you are in the middle of a heartbreak, the sheer fact that you are working through it means your next great love is already on its way.