Gender Conformity? So Yesterday

A commentary on genderfludity

By Audrey Rodriguez Contributor

What is a girl? What is a woman? What defines the female gender? I’ll tell you what does NOT define the female gender. The color pink, Barbies, heels, skirts, lipstick and lingerie. Sure, many girls and woman may like these things, but they are not for all women.

The article, “My Daughter is Not Transgender. She’s a Tomboy,” delves into the touchy subject of gender in today’s world. Since we live in a gender-binary world, with the two main genders being male and female, some confusion and controversy can occur when people fall out of this binary.

Stereotypes also arise when a person doesn’t “look the way they’re supposed to.” More often than not, when a female dresses like a male or vise versa, they are automatically perceived as being lesbian or gay. This is sadly what our world has come to. Most see things in black or white, with no possibility of gray. However, the concept of gender doesn’t need to be seen this way.

As a woman who commends gender role nonconformity, “My Daughter is Not Transgender. She’s a Tomboy” really stood out to me. The idea of a 7-year-old who opts for track pants and a t-shirt over a pink dress may confuse some, but the gray seers realize that gender conformity is no more. It’s about gender nonconformity.

I personally have been questioned of why I wear the things I wear. So what if all I wear to school is work out pants? I am at school for 8 hours, forgive me if I just want to be comfy. Wearing work out clothes all the time instead of dresses and skirts does not make me any less of a woman. There should be no more talk of a woman is a woman, so a woman should dress like a woman.

Why should women be assigned to certain clothing? The perception of women wearing pink dresses and skirts is outdated because girls who like to dress like tomboys are taking over the world. Women shouldn’t have to wear what people expect them to wear.

When women are expected to dress in a certain way it raises the possibility of insecurities. If they feel like they are not up to par when it comes to the the way they look, they might feel insecure and their self image could be shattered. These insecurities can start when they are young.

According to the Huffington Post, by age 11, girls that are considered more “boyish” have a higher chance of abuse from other kids, or even their families. This is not healthy and no one should live like this.

“My Daughter is Not a Transgender. She’s a Tomboy” goes beyond gender conformity and nonconformity for that matter. It raises the possibilities of gender fluidity. Gender fluidity is acknowledging the fact that someone might have qualities of a different gender inside them that they are either expressing or not.

Exact statistics about gender fluidity don’t exist but experts estimate that somewhere between one per cent and eight per cent of the population are “gender diverse”, which ranges from being gender fluid to transsexual (person who identifies as the opposite sex) or genderqueer (person who identifies as neither sex).

According to Fusion’s Massive Millennial Poll, 50% of millennials felt that gender is a spectrum and that many people fall out of conventional ideals. People should be able to dress how they want to dress without being questioned.

Small town girl turned androgynous, Miley Cyrus, even commends gender fluidity. Her creative style paints the perfect picture of a genderfluid person. Just like Miley, people should be able to be who they want to be without being questioned.