A Cure for Loneliness

We are developing a way to further connect more people, but until that time, perhaps try an experiment.

We are, each of us, alone. We have extended families, a network of friends, there are 324 million people in the US and 7.5 billion people on earth, and yet we are alone.

What a waste of life, experiences and relationships. It’s not, as an economist would say, a mismatch of supply and demand — I believe that we want relationships and experiences, but too many of us do not create those relationships or experiences out of fear of rejection or because we lack the tools to connect likeminded people.

In reality, most of our relationships are based on physical proximity. We are friends with the people we go to school with and work with. Given that humans are either created by God or engineered through evolution to have empathy for one another, physical proximity is a reasonable basis to establish relationships. While physical proximity is largely necessary, there are other factors that come into play to create the deepest relationships and to create the most pleasurable, meaningful, and enlightening experiences. Physical proximity alone is restricting. If we are only friends with say our classmates or coworkers, we lose the chance to have friends of other age groups, disciplines, cultures, etc.

I invested in 4Thought Studios and supported the creation of the Epochly app because it incorporates physical proximity and so much more to create new relationships and experiences — it creates an efficient market in relationships. Epochly brings together people that want to get to know each other. Not just like-minded people, but people coming from different ages, education, work, culture and experiences, that have one primary factor in common — they want to meet to live life more fully.

Epochly is now entering beta testing with 1,000 users. Until then, I would suggest an experiment. Next time you are on a flight, or a bus, eating breakfast, or standing in line, look at the person next to you and say “hi.” Ask what he or she is reading, or eating, or what he or she is studying or what kind of work does he or she do. Either the person will be closed and give a short reply, and you will know not to continue much further in the conversation, or more likely the person will open up. Don’t think about your next question or what you want to say next. Listen to what the person is saying, internalize the response, and ask another question. Get into the details. You will see the person open up and just that conversation alone will have an impact on your day and life. Even if you never see this person again, if you are anything like me the conversation will be something you mentioned for years to come in other conversations. It will impact your life for the better.

We are all connected; we are just pretending to live apart. The Epochly app uses technology and digital networks to facilitate or intermediate relationships and experiences. Until the app is fully released, use the low-tech method — look at the person next to you and say “hi.”

Note: I would like anyone that tries this to please tell your story in the comments.

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