From the Editor: Dust Yourself Off, Beloved —
Your failures are trying to wake you up
The insurmountable weight that comes after failing at something you were aiming to defeat can take the wind out of you, if you allow it. The constricting walls that smash you into a cluster-fuck of frustration is only a mental restriction, beloved. Just focus on choosing the best version of yourself.
I’ve been so upset at what I considered to be “life goals,” that I lost track of actually remaining en-JOY-able. I’ve been so discouraged I didn’t remember to bless others with the best version of myself. Then, I got really mad. So mad, a beautiful transformation started to take place. Dysfunction wasn’t normal for me. However, I had accepted to be that by not actively looking to keep my peace of mind and joy, by not being compassionate, empathetic or gentle, and by always contributing something not-so-positive to someone’s conversation. (Yuck, right?)
I could read every work of art by someone motivational or inspirational, but things didn’t change until I took a large inhale of God’s promises. That breath of fresh air ignited a fire within me. I wrapped myself in God’s love, and declared freedom from so much emotional baggage. I felt like I was carrying what other people were feeling towards me. I picked up[energy] on the things that weren’t getting communicated, which in turn made me be extremely hard on myself….for the wrong reasons. I took responsibility for every person who was doing me wrong, or shared accountability with. I allowed so many low-blows to take a strike to my body, my heart was discourage to even keep pumping for myself.
All of this were simply school of thoughts that took a course for the worst. I would accept things things by thinking people mirror you, but they don’t. People react first, love later. I HAD TO adjust my perception of self for survival. I had to stop being so lost in the sauce, you know.
First thing’s first: stop being upset.
“Get mad. Get motivated. Get money.”
Just don’t lose heart. Sulk in humility — not guilt. Stop judging yourself for making mistakes. Dust yourself off and shake off that spirit. Hard time even recognizing joy or happiness in your own life?: Find sunshine — literally sun shinning — and stand in it! Vitamin D has proven to improve moods and even regulate a sleep schedule. It takes hard work tame the wild elephant that is your mind from going down the wrong path. Guarding your heart from the trials and tribulations of life’s lessons is not for the weak. But, let’s be honest for sec: Are you working hard at not feeling discouraged?
Second thing’s second: become a “pro” at affirming yourself.
That little light of yours, let it shine, beloved. Be honored to experience self-love that’s not based on victimizing how you feel or what you think. Find an activity that empowers the leader within you. Are you usually strong, aggressive almost? Try weightlifting, or even yoga. Are you usually reserved and hesitant to make a move? Try something that kicks up adrenaline into high-gear. Affirm yourself to always break free from complacency.
Last thing’s last: celebrate who you are becoming.
Now, I’m not saying to go and tweet “new year, new me.” (Oh please don’t do that!)
I am saying surround yourself with people, places, and things that celebrate you.
- Warning: You will lose “friends” during this transition. Some will even call you phony, fake, and full of sh!t. If you are making a change for the better, you won’t ever have to defend yourself, or your change. Stay calm, smile and wave.
