Moving forward

I know many people who think that they have to forgive and forget and that if they do that the person who hurt them will do it again and so keeping a grudge will help them remember what happened. In a class that I am taking we are talking about forgiveness.

Forgiveness is something that doesn’t just help the person you are forgiving, it also helps you. have you ever been mad at someone and so you try to avoid them? You go around trying to make sure you don’t bump into them and if you do, you try to make sure you get out of that situation as fast as possible? That causes you to use energy that you don’t really have to use and it could end up having bad consequences mentally, emotionally, etc. So forgiving someone will help heal you as well.

If you really don’t want that person in your life anymore that’s just fine. You don’t have to have them around, you can become indifferent. That means you aren’t holding a grudge, but you just don’t want to have anything to do with them anymore. You don’t really have any attachment anymore which is totally fine. I think that this is a good way when you want to end on even terms, but move forward. Now remember I don’t say move on. You can still remember what happened, just move forward. Learn from the experience and keep going. You can’t change the past, so why try?