• When did dating become so informal, somewhat impersonal or too personal. What happened to the butterflies to meeting someone new in person. What happened to seeing a beautiful stranger on the street and saying “hello” due to fear of never seeing them again and missing your chance on something maybe great or bad. I started online dating (more like app dating, but it is what it is) less than a year ago. It’s has its up and downs, downs because I am still single. I remember a time though, several years ago in my 20's, how easy it was to meet someone. The process was simple but of course complicated. Met said stranger at a party, bar, grocery store, etc. Then maybe/sometimes have an awkward but cute moment when go after the same bag of chips or he notices me across the room and came to say Hi. Conversation starts, common interest are there, physical attraction is there and BAM! a time and date is set, phone numbers exchanged and the dating process begins. Now I have to stare at a multiple pictures (some I have to determine if old pictures or new) and little to no info on their profile. In the words of my social medias addicted friends “should be social media stalk him?” to see if he is worth swiping right for. Since when did this become an option, am I going to like what I see? Am I going to judge this stranger bases on his post? It’s so much more harder now that is makes it terrifying. Do I put my self out there? Am I going to be scammed/catfish? Does he really look like his pictures? Is he a poser and agreeing with my likes and profile info (this has happen to me before). Are they going to send or ask for inappropriate pictures. I can go on and on and list fears and common quips of online dating. But for your time and my time sake I won’t or maybe I will later down the line. But when did dating become so much harder and a guessing game? When did the art of meeting a stranger die? Supposedly these apps work, people have met their now spouses and rode off into the sunset. I am over here thinking “How?”. If you have the answer don’t message me, unfortunately I love to learn things the hard way. It suppose to make you stronger and wiser and less attractive.

    Slowlifeinfastlanes

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    Online dater, no filter speaker, single mother life,dog parent to jerks, thrill seeker, fun maker, makes the best and the worst of every situation.