Parenting Tip — The Porcupine & The Bear
Thoughts about helping siblings understand their relationship.
Young siblings will fight as we all know and parents will hurt seeing such a display but what to do we do?
Such passion and play strong wills and no sway.
Anger is high and they won’t give in, only deny.
Try to find the right words but what can I say.
She had it first and sister won’t share. Scream and cry, it all seems absurd. But, to them it’s the end of all ends, anger rising above words.
Parents, we must soothe and find an instant way to cut a new groove. Steer our precious into a new lane and look for a path much more smooth.
Grudges will hold on and linger. Next time to share that sister might remember.
It’s only been a quick minute since the last fit and brawl and now the two sisters have seemed to have forgotten it all.
I hear with delight and see with a grin a new game the girls are playing, a wonderful spin.
I explained to my girls,
“One of you is the porcupine and the other the bear and sometimes your spines get caught in the other’s fur and hair. When that happens you must go on your own. Then you will calm and find a cool zone.”
My girls are both keen and seemed to understand a quick space between them could return their playful spirits and restore peace again.
I find I must remind them of this every now and then but that is no trouble to lighten a harsh trend.
Many a book and a teacher might give advice on how to parent and guide, how to be nice. But, if I might say that it’s not that much written about the power it takes to keep a parent’s frustration with a tongue bitten.
Restraint and temperance are quite nice ideas and every parent wishes they were perfect in hindsight. Find balanced reason for a fast second or if you’re very fortunate for a whole season.
So, if you have a porcupine and a bear or more of the pair, whatever you do explain this lesson with care and hope for a moment they might listen, this I dare.
To share a kind hug and give with a smile will make your days much brighter and lighten your trials. Always care for each other being aware to support and love even in heavy despair.