“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” reflection #2. Chapters 4–6
Although I have enjoyed majority of the book, I enjoyed the book more once I reached Part Two of the book because it contained more on how to interact with introverts and what helps introverted people do their best, which was what I had hoped to gain from this book. The book connected to my life in the aspect that my entire immediate family considers themselves extroverts except my younger brother. As a family we were able to look at the points of the book that helped us promote my brother’s quiet characteristics that were different from the rest of my families more outgoing and adventurous personalities. The book has influenced my interactions with friends, family, and the new people that I meet.
Cain’s writing style helped to express the values and points of her book. Cain used an excessive amount of research on introversion, scientific studies and research, along with multiple personal experiences and testimonies to direct her feelings on the “Extrovert Ideal.” I found her information authentic being that she made sure to provide plenty of evidence to support her opinions and statements. I was able to relate my experiences to the examples Cain writes about, along with taking the Myers-Briggs personality test, to certainly declare myself an extrovert. Cain, being an introvert herself, wrote very highly of introverts, mentioning their special characteristics some including being excessively caring, and tremendously smart among many other tendencies. She also did not fail to also mention the valuable attributes of extroverts.
I was highly surprised by the complex and complicated research that is being done just to find out what makes up our personalities. One of these studies is one that is still ongoing today, lead by Jerome Kagan. Cain states “Kagan devoted his career to studying the emotional and cognitive development of children. In a series of groundbreaking longitudinal studies, he followed children from infancy through adolescence, documenting their physiologies and personalities along the way” (99). From his life-long research Kagan was able to come to the conclusion that our personalities are actually inborn qualities. He came to the verdict that children with a high reactive amygdala became more introverted due to a biological basis. I was also surprised to find out how important it is for an introverted child to be raised and nurtured in a well structured lifestyle. Cain refers to an article by David Dobbs titled The Atlantic. She refers to the importance of high-reactive children’s nurturing by saying “…many children are like dandelions, able to thrive in just about any environment. But others, including the high-reactive types that Kagan studied, are more like orchids: they wilt easily, but under the right conditions can grow strong and magnificent” (111). This quote from Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking shows just how necessary it is for parents with a high-reactive child to focus on their child’s specific needs that will help them blossom to their full potential.