Help! My GF is such a Scaredy Cat!
Q My girlfriend gets scared at night when I’m not around. I know, I know, it sounds weird but she really gets terrified. There’s a security system she can turn on, which will send out alerts and make a hellish noise if someone gets in but that’s not enough. She claims a dog would make her feel better but dogs are a lot of work and all our plants died under her watch. I know I’ll be the one who gets stuck being on dog duty quite a bit of time. I plan on adding new doors and more security, but I think this is more psychological and probably requires therapy more than a double dead bolt. Any thoughts?- NoBabysitter
A Dear NoBabysitter, I could have sworn my own BF wrote this? We moved from the secure NYC lights to a shaded, forest area and I hear the animal kingdom in full effect at night. I don’t find it one bit strange that your GF should feel scared at night and, after all, she’s all alone. I wish I had a dog as well, which would inevitably ease my fearsome, lonesome self, but I’m simply not home enough. Although you are right to believe that your GF’s fears aren’t rational, you are wrong to dismiss them and your fatherly tone is a bit worrisome. She’s expressed to you that no amount of security systems will make her feel safe and that a dog would do the trick. Adopt a more compassionate approach, sit down and discuss the prospects, (and your concerns), about having a dog. Come to an agreement, like honorable adults, and explain that the dog is her responsibility alone and take it from there. If you find that she falters, it’s time to revisit your arrangement. I also recommend that you don’t buy more plants.