UPDATE : “My coworkers hate me”

This woman wrote me about being a threat to her coworkers and not getting along with them. I suggested the problem may lie within her inability to connect gregariously and look into discussing the matter with her boss. Here’s the update: So update about my coworkers hate me, (I never said that but that was your interpretation). I was direct and asked my coworker and boss directly what’s going on. Turns out it was a big misunderstanding. My coworker is in fact jealous of my sales, because I double hers, but she actually likes me a lot, it just made her feel insecure in her position so she was constantly trying to prove herself in other areas. My boss was under pressures that had nothing to do with me and didn’t realize that it was coming across as being hostile. We’ve cleared the air and it’s back to chill and that this happens all the time was really just my own projection and anxiety. I was amplifying the reality. I actually asked to work somewhere else most of the week so I could give her the space to thrive and she really has. I’m great at sales but what I learned was sometimes there’s so much more value in taking a step back, considering someones feeling about their seniority and contribution. Now she’s caught up to me in sales at our location, it’s changed her feelings about herself and me. I don’t have to be number one. I also learned if something makes me uncomfortable I’m quick to want to run because I avoid stress. It was literally one long eye opening conversation with my boss and I’m happy to report that most of what was concerning me was easily & immediately resolved.