Loneliness- comes from within or surrounding make us feel?

Chandani
Age of Awareness
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3 min readJun 15, 2020
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The reason why I raised this question refers that do we know from where this feeling is coming actually! We feel it from inside or people and the environment make us feel that a particular way, another thing is that if u want to delete this feeling then you have to know that where is it coming from?

Before knowing that, you need to know what is the difference between certain phrases related to this feeling.

‘Being alone’

‘Left alone’

‘Feeling alone’

Sometimes we want to be alone which is completely understandable that we just need space. Sometimes we feel left alone, well this is terrible that other people make us feel alone is left alone and we have the right to blame that person that you made me feel that way when I needed you to be with me. Now, last but not least feeling alone. This one is a little bit tricky because this is the feeling where we are not willing to be alone and on the other side we are not even allowing self to be with someone.

What I feel is, most of the time loneliness comes from within when we are not able to share something with someone when we miss someone a lot, when we fail, when no one gives us appreciation, when you feel that I am will not fit in here, when we overthink, when our expectations remain unfulfilled, when we are full of fright, when we lose someone and the most terrible thing is that no one talks about these reasons and maybe not even able to recognize that this can be a reason for our loneliness. The best way to overcome this is to push yourself to open up, face your fear, communicate, and get things done where it belongs.

This was all about felling alone which comes from inside but what about when a person causes this feeling? Here the thing is that if the person is doing this then that piece of shit doesn’t worth the second thought of yours. You just have to forget that and get over it for your own better.

“Loneliness steal the lives of those whose hearts shattered so hard, there is no ‘back together’”

The broken heart gives the hardest emptiness in anyone’s life that it will lead you to end up destroying yourself and not letting anyone what caused that until and unless you fight back. The only way out is to hold your hand tight and come back with your own company that no one can cut off.

Apart from everything being able to be alone and happy is the most powerful thing one can achieve. It makes you feel stronger. Loneliness is designed to help you discover who you are and stop looking outside yourself for your worth.

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Chandani
Age of Awareness

Human Developmentalist with a writing passion. Revisiting my own thinking for creativity. It must flow. chandani.9499@gmail.com Instagram- @chandanirajput