This was a great read. I had no idea that my own self loathing was poisoning my daughters. I thought that my never ending support of them was fine and I could hate myself and love them and they would only focus on the love. I was wrong. When my daughter gave birth to a baby girl and when that little girl was about 2 my daughter told me, in her angry voice, “don’t you EVER say anything negative about your body in front of my daughter”. And then we talked. And then I understood what you have articulated so well in this piece — self loathing does not only impact one's self. It oozes out and infects others.

Congratulations on learning to love yourself. As Martha would say — that’s a good thing.