I don’t think there’s a definite recipe to get over the loss of a loved one. We’re all different, thus each and everyone of us processes this differently.
In 2015 I lost my grandfather, he was the world to me. He practically raised me. When I got the phone call I didn’t react the way I “should have” reacted, I didn’t even cry at his funeral. My dad did, that’s the only time I’ve seen him cry.(..or shed a tear)
Then, after about a year on a random occasion someone mentioned his grandfather and it hit me, really F-ing hard. My eyes became blurry, my cheeks went wet.
I think in our society there are things that are “expected of us” either in specific situations or in general. Men for example are expected to be some very controversial things.
Like to be emotional and open, but to keep those emotions for themselves because they’re “expected” not to cry and be strong.
Who decided that being strong is being defined by the amount of tears someone shed ?
Those expectations are what keeps us from developing, evolving and being better.
**I might have given an example about men but I meant all genders**
My deepest condolences bro.
