Successful tips to enhance your sex life.
As life gets in the way, sex life suffers for most long term couples.
Chores, kids, finances, and other issues can push sex out of marriage. Sex sometimes becomes boring in some long-term marriages or relationships. As the years go by and you get older, your intimate relationship deteriorates.
Why does sex become boring for married couple?
Spending too much time with your partner may be the problem. It’s has been a conceived notion that if you. spend more time with your partner you build something called “intimacy”, which will lead to sex. Actually, this may be wrong.
Seeing someone all the time is not sexy after the first few months. It leads to something called habituation, which must be avoided at all costs if you want to continue having sex with your partner.
What is habituation?
You know how it is when you’re in a long term relationship, no matter how much you love each other, there comes a time when you look at each other and think ‘I don’t feel that spark anymore’ and this. happens mostly because of habituation.
Habituation is poison in a marriage.
Think about it, when you first met your partner, or when you were married the first 6 to 7 months were the peak in sexual satisfaction. Both partner couldn’t keep their hands off each other. Every sensation was thrilling because it was new and unfamiliar.
Rates of happiness are highest in the years prior to the birth of the first child.
It hits a low point with the coming of children. As a child needs our attention 24/7, also comes added responsibilities and financial strain.
Relationships become more customary when there are more financial hardships and stress in living.
At this point all we focus is on creating a life around us. Eventually, habituation sets in, and people stop noticing little thing about our partners.
Don’t get disappointed,Habituation is a natural and normal part of our experience. It allows us to function in our environment and allows us to pay less attention to certain elements so that we can better focus on other important one’s.
Let’s talk sex.
- Share Desires and Expectations:
Don’t shy out, speak out your desires.You have to understand when you are making love to your partner and exploring each other sexually, you are staying connected and intimate with each other.
You both need to know what the other person wants. Talk it out, if you don’t feel comfortable text him/her when they are at work or when you are shopping in different isles. It will spark excitement.
- Read romantic or sexual stories:
There are a lot of options for romance and erotic novels. Share it with your partner. The stories are filled with sexual tension, titillating foreplay, and steamy sex scenes, reading romance with your partner can inspire new things in your own sex life. Get ready to have some fun.
- Workout out/ increase physical activity:
workouts boosts your mood. Physically active adults have a lower risk of depression and cognitive decline. Studies. have shown exercise to increase sexual libido.
- Keep yourself physically fit:
when some women put on weight they feel shy and ashamed of how they look and so could avoid sex. Take good care of yourself.A healthy sex life intersects with your overall physical, emotional, and mental health.
- Date nights, fun, and playfulness:
Having time alone together will help protect our privacy from the incursions of kids, jobs and the stress of life. This emotional connection will contribute to saving your sex life by keeping you close and prioritizing your relationship.
You can also have sex before your date night, you will feel lighter. There is no stress to reach home early. If you are tired after dinner you can just go pub hopping — and if the fire is still on, you know what to do!!
- Dress up :
Wear sexy lingerie or silk boxers underneath your clothes, this will help you feel sexy and a little naughty. This can put you in the mood for sex and throughout the day will have you anticipating the moment you finally get naked. It will also serve as a lovely surprise as your husband or wife undresses you.
Most couples get caught up in the momentum of deciding who is going to do the dishes, laundry or who is going to drive which child where, how everyone will end up getting dinner, and more. It’s hard to switch gears and end up in overdrive in bed.
Give real-life routine a rest.
Celebrate the most important day of YOUR life, not just your kids life. Book a hotel. Dress to impress each other. As partners we normally see each other in pajamas or gym clothes.You have to put an effort for each other. Make the difference you want.
Hope this helps you!!