Let’s talk Business
So once I had one Tinder date down, the second one came a little easier to agree to, although I was definitely in a skeptical mindset, after the first one. Her name was Anna and we talked enough via the app to feel comfortable enough to meet up, so I asked for her number and we met at a bar (pretty routine, I later learned).
We met at Comstock Saloon in North Beach, a pretty cool bar with live music, a definite plus. I learned from my first date that it’s probably best to ease into lifestyle conversations and not talk about how everything I like to do involves the outdoors..because it would probably make her think that I’m some granola hippy with nothing in common. So I took the sophisticated route and asked about what she does for a living. She said she works for GAP, of course the first two things that crossed my mind were: #1 In-Store or at Corporate? and #2 Should I make a comment about her or I wearing GAP clothes? I found out the answer to #1 and I couldn’t refrain from asking #2. Turns out we were both indeed wearing GAP.
Somehow we both ended up nerding out over Excel….for far too long. I don’t know who was at fault, but it went on for an hour and neither of us tried to stop it. She was easy to talk to, funny, witty and way better at telling stories than I was. We ended up talking and laughing for four hours, until the bar closed and we parted ways. We texted the following days about meeting up again and doing a pizza and Excel, but it never happened. Any detectives out there looking for a hard case to solve? We never met up again and she disappeared…there was my first ghost. (Probably self inflicted)
The term “ghosting“ (sometimes known as the “slow fade”) refers to the anecdotally pervasive act where one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing. The ghost does not give an explanation of any sort, leaving the ghosted wondering where he or she went wrong.