Bengali Inter-cast Marriage
Marriage in India is one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family any one always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.
The modern generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage
Arpita Saha, 27 years, Sr Engineer, TCS, Kolkata said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.
In another conversation with Banking professional, Priti Singh, 27 years, shared with us that she too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if boy is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For her caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.
We, also discussed about the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their counter logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.
Subho Bhattachrya, 54 years, Bank officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. She cannot adjusted with different culture.
Santosh Kr Basak, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. He said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, he also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.