The Unanswered Text/s

April
April
Jul 25, 2017 · 3 min read

No Response Is A Response

Have you been waiting for that text message from that handsome guy you had a date with? It has been what — 4 days and 3 hours, not that you’re counting, and still no response? What irks you more is that there’s this tiny word just below his message that says ‘seen’ or ‘read.’ I hear you, I hear you. It is indeed annoying and I hate to rain on your parade sweetie but no response IS a response.

Was it actually him who last messaged you and you’re trying to play these games wherein you want him to miss you more so you stop yourself from replying to him? What are you, 14?

He is not a mind reader and until now some men are still clueless on how the female brain works so give the guy a break and reply if you feel like replying to him. To his brain, you not replying means you might be busy and can’t attend to your phone at the moment, period. So if that’s the case then go and initiate a text.

Okay, it was you who last messaged him — what was your message?

You see, if your last message was only an eggplant emoji or that smug face emoji then it doesn’t necessarily need a response unless you’re dating a fuckboy who would probably reply back with a cucumber emoji.

However, if your last message is an interrogative one, then that obviously requires a response. It depends what your question is but whether it’s a shallow one or something quite deep that needs a lot of thinking, it’s still nice to hear back from the other party. And if you don’t, then there’s your answer. People can get extremely busy that there are times they forget to get back to the person they’re texting with (guilty!) but at the end of the day, if you matter to them, they will always make time to respond to you.

So there you have it — if you don’t hear from them at all — stop the excuses. No, he didn’t die. No, he didn’t accidentally deleted your messages. No, he didn’t lose his phone (but he just posted this scenic mountain view on his Instagram account 35 minutes ago). No, he isn’t fidgeting while staring at his phone for 6 hours thinking if he actually has the balls to respond to you. No darling, he isn’t ‘a shy guy.’

Yes — you don’t matter to him that much. Yes — he is too busy to respond to you, he doesn’t even have 5 minutes of his time to let his thumbs type to respond to you. I mean, come on, how long would it take to type in “hey. Im doing good, how about you?” Well, it took me less than 10 seconds.

No response is a response. My question is — would you settle for that person?

April

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April

Lover of Mondays. A bibliophile. A pluviophile. I love intellectual conversations with a dash of humor. I love to laugh, drink, eat and geek out.

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