Sorry Tiff but no.
Adam Stasiak

Hi Adam,

You end your first comment by saying:

“if you’re going to get offended at a bunch of pixels and someone waving a controller in an inappropriate manner then you shouldn’t be on the internet to begin with”

and begin your next comment by saying:

“this is not and never was “sexual assault” and I take offence at it.”

By your own logic, I would say that if you take offence at the words other people use to describe their own experiences, you shouldn’t be engaging in dialogue with those people.

That said, I don’t think this is really about offending or being offended. It’s about something else, and I don’t know you, so I can’t say what it is. But I would like to ask the question: what is your goal here? For example, is it to preserve your right to virtually grope whomever you please? Is it to preserve that right for others, on principle?

We can argue all we like about the truth and validity of others’ lived experiences without accomplishing anything, but the objective reality of behaviours like this one and responses like yours is that women do not feel safe online. So if your goal is to maintain a majority-male space on the internet, you’re certainly on the right track.

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