Such as how co-dependents rush to defend their abuser — emotional or physical? I understand it in theory and hesistate to be completely incredulous because I don’t have much experience with this. (Though I do have some.) Youth is seems the likeliest factor. When it happens in families, one has to grow into enough world perspective to even recognize it. I suppose that can set patterns. But I do wonder, eventually, don’t you know? I suppose trust comes in there, then. Even if you know, who would you trust to help you out of the co-dependence?