KINGS LOVE CHRONICLES: Relationship Advice?

What’s going on Fam,

I know that it has been a minute since I have written to you all, I have been busy prepping for finals and my final papers. Being that I am an English Major, I have been swamped with reading and writing and pretty much preparing for the holiday break.

Today I want to write to you about finding a good thing:

“An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends

and against all sound judgment starts quarrels.

2Fools find no pleasure in understanding

but delight in airing their own opinions/…/The tongue has the power of life and death,

and those who love it will eat its fruit.

22He who finds a wife finds what is good

and receives favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:1–2 and 23

As a thinker and one who has a lot of experience in people watching. Yes, People watching does sound weird but I look at them with the intention of trying to figure out how their lives are. Have you ever sat back and looked at people and laughed because you have created your own scenario about their life? Ok, so maybe you haven’t but I also sit back and listen to the people that around me and I take the things that they say and I reflect on their words and how they act.

As a young man, I like to look at women, obviously in admiration of beauty but also with the intent to better understand them. I haven’t been in many relationships. The relationships that I have been in are few and far in between but I always felt like I was searching for something. It was nothing that was just sexual, due to natural desire; but it was something that was deeper. I wanted to know if she was smart, if she can actually hold a good conversation or simply did not mind sitting with me in the house and have coffee or a glass of wine and discuss topics and things that fascinate the mind. To me, that is the biggest turn on.

I believe that people go from one relationship to another, simply because they are trying to find what is deeper than just sex and what is more important than just going for the joys of saying that they are in a relationship. On the college campus, I’ve seen people in many different relationships, which most seem to be short lived because you find yourself having a high sex drive and that becomes all that you desire and once you realize that they can’t give you anything that can satisfy your mind you move to the next thing.

THE QUESTION: What are you looking for in your’e next relationship? What must they have to offer you, if finances, sex and Netflix was out of the equation. What would you want?

ADVICE: Referencing the fragmented scriptures above, the bible says, “…The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” To whomever you find yourself with in the future, you must be true to yourself. Sometimes it is easy to put on an act to attract your significant other but when it comes down to the person that is there for you, you will know, because all you would have to do is be yourself and they will eat the fruit that you bare.

HELP ME, HELP YOU: The end of the verse it states, “He whom finds a wife finds a good thing.” I hope I was able to give you something that was valuable but what do you do when you have found the right one? You feel in your heart that you found the right woman because she shares all your beliefs and values? There are times I sit and I watch women but when you find that woman who does not compare to the rest, how do you tie that one down? To me, women are so beautiful and valuable that I never want to have the intent to harm or be disrespectful to anyone. The best piece of advice I could give myself is to allow things to take time. What are your thought? Comment Below.

Blessings,

Malik