Don’t Let Life Comfort-Zone You
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” — Mark Twain
Roughly 2 months ago I realized that I needed something different. After planning with a great friend of mine who offered me some space, I left whatever I had and moved to New Orleans.
I’ve never stood up for myself in life. I was one of the most complacent people I knew —however, I’m still working on that.
During high school and college (all 16 months of it) I was the Rule-Following Kid. Petrified of standing out and having to interact, I kept to myself.
I’ve had a stuttering condition since around 9 years old. By high school, I became an insecure weirdo that just wanted to be ignored, as long as I didn’t have to talk.
This shaped my reality. This made follow every rule because I never wanted to argue. I never took a stance on anything because I how much discomfort having to speak brought to me.
I said yes to everything and no to nothing.
I was really intimidated college, but it was less scary than having to rely on my own. I didn’t want to have to meet people, network, interview, nothing, I just wanted a job. I had no idea how I was going to adult, for real.
I assumed I had to become a computer programmer. It was the only job I could think of that would allow me to get paid and not interact with people — so I thought.
Lo and behold, a year or so into college, I found out my major required a speech class. I noped my way out of college.
So I dipped, never went back. In hindsight, I’m kinda glad. I love technology and computers, but I’m indifferent about computer programming.
Fast forward to today. I made the jump and moved to New Orleans. I left everything I had in NYC (which wasn’t much, to be honest). All with one goal in mind — To reshape my own life.
There’s a certain blasé that comes with being in the comfort zone for too long. You forget to look at the greater picture because everything in your life is going “well”.
You don’t mind going to your sub-par job ad-nauseam because you know your bills are paid. You don’t meet new people because you already have the best friends in the world.
You assume dreaming is dead, so you settle for mediocre.
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