Relationships my views after 22 years of life.
I dint like going on about relationships but these are an integral part of modern day life and hurdling some of the challenges they bring forth I find interesting and want to share my insight.
First thing I’ll note is that you need put each other life’s into context. Do your ambitions match ? What matters to you truly?
If you both have high ambitions then things like delayed messages, little interaction when apart won’t matter.
Because you know they’re working hard to make a future that’s great for both of you. If not there’s an imbalance. This causes negative friction. One person looking at the small, the other looking big. You miss each other.
Things like falling asleep weekdays because you’ve had back to back meetings won’t matter. You’re working, if I win you win.
There’s no time for pride or petty behaviour in relationships.If you disrespect her you’re disrespecting yourself. You’re an extension of each other
Do not avoid deep conversations, deep let’s you know what you think, motivations fears. Essential for future. Without you’re shootings in the dark.
You must understand that sacrifices must be made and the quality time you do spend is everything. schedule it and guard it. Cultivate it.
Trust. Pure trust. It’s scary. But you have to do it. You have to go in thinking that this person will do right be what ever. If you don’t. Stop that interaction right there. Because you’ll second guess yourself and your partner. Destructive behaviour.
There’s no time for pride or petty behaviour in relationships.If you disrespect her you’re disrespecting yourself. You’re an extension of each other.
You’re relationship shouldn’t have an online presence, or be an entity of itself digitally. This applies to arguments, meaningful interaction. Keep that stuff in the physical where it’s tangible and can be analysed and felt truly.
Transparency! Tell each other things If you are upset say straight away. 1 day in or 10 years in. This will safe your life.
This list will always be edited as I grow older and experience more but are the foundations I hold now.
Respect your energies.