#1/30: Self Help
Turning Loneliness to Solitude: A Guide[1/3]
No longer do you need to feel sorry for yourself. Step UP!
‘Stop scrolling through those sad, depressing Instagram quotes and start moving.’
Loneliness. An emotion. A feeling. A constant state of despair.
No matter how you describe it, we all can agree; no one likes to be lonely. And it seems hilarious but it's true; one could feel lonely even in a room full of people.
One must remember that the road of Loneliness is a slippery slope that leads to depression and numerous mental and physical health complications. So tie those laces tight. Cause we are going to get off this road asap.
1. Acknowledge It:
‘One can not solve a problem that does not exists’
We often try to neglect or suppress this feeling because it makes us seem vulnerable. We must constantly remind ourselves that it is completely normal to feel lonely, even if we have friends. There are numerous reasons to feel lonely. One may be thriving for a meaningful relationship or had a betrayal in a previous one. No one likes to be alone. After all, our monkey brain knows: APE TOGETHER STRONG.
2. Time to Talk
Many times, we feel lonely because of the lack of connection we had with people that we once rejoiced. Call those family members or friends whom calls are you waiting for. It’s never a bad idea to initialize a conversation, not when we want to talk.
If you lack such relationships or do not want to go back to those people. It’s fine. You could meet new people in the park, coffee shops, or even online; on websites like MEETUP.
3. Pick Up that Hobby
All of us want to learn new things or to practice things that we left behind. It’s a good time to pick them up. Whether it’s learning a new language, a new instrument, or anything else. What it does is, it diverts your mind from the sluggish thought of loneliness is puts it up for work. On this journey, you may find your confidant in that online mentor/teacher, or find a new friend in that topic’s community. Endless Possibilities.
4. Who Need’s a Friend Anyway?
Want to give up on people? The hell with that. You don’t need people. Make an audience. Write, Teach, Share what you learned. Make a course, Write on Quora or Medium. Shout your thoughts in a public place. The sky is the limit.
P.S:- Please don’t give on people. They are useful. They will take care of you if you became ill. They will help you hide the dead body of the person whom you just killed.
5. Read Philosophy
You have 2 choices:
1. The Positive Approach:- Buddhism, Chinese Philosophy, Stoicism
This is the sweeter way to look at life. It will give you a new direction; a new hope toward looking at life. Read the original literature. Discuss it with your friends. Share your opinion online.
2. The Negative Approach:- Nihilism, Absurdism, Existentialism
Read it at your own risk. Don’t blame me later on.
This is the more BERSERK way of looking at life. It will give you a direction that feels like sucking on a popsicle for 5 hours straight. Read the literature. Discuss it with your friends if you want to get rid of them. Correct misled teenagers online.
This is the 1st story of the 3-part story. Hope you liked it and will follow some of the tips. In upcoming stories, I will discuss How I turned Loneliness into Solitude and How to face your Loneliness. Have a great day ahead.
