Victims forgiving the people who wronged them is great, but if you want real change, you need the perpetrator to be able to forgive themselves!

An important line from the movie The Usual Suspect is “the greatest trick the devil ever played, was convincing the world he doesn’t exist”.
I was watching this amazing educational series on Gaia TV, in particular this episode is relevant to what I share here:

In this episode Caroline Myss explains that people don’t want to believe in evil, they just want to believe in angels and fairies and love and good things. But this is how evil gets away with its actions.
And, surprisingly, she is NOT talking about the evil in others!
If another wounds you deep to the core of your Soul, the first step is for you to thank them for this gift, and then work at unravelling it. She calls this a Sacred Contract.
The evil we need to be aware of is in our selves! She defines Grace as when you really want to say or do that awful thing, and you don’t. She says when people know something is wrong, and they do it anyways, that is a sin. And if people used these powerful spiritual words: “I am sorry, I did something that I knew was wrong, I have sinned”, we would be quicker to forgive the other.
But the other is not the only one we have to forgive, and focusing on this maintains a victim mindset: I was wronged and now I have to forgive, look at me, the victim.
I’ve grown beyond that. I’m tired of people reading about other people’s victim and triumph stories. To me, all of this is avoidance of working on our selves on our lessons.
Don’t teach me to forgive another. It’s not about the other. It’s about ourselves. Teach me to forgive me, as I forgive you.
A friend wrote a book that I hope is about this topic. And if it is, I look forward to reading it. We shall see.
Forgive yourself for what you did before you knew better, and when you know better, do better. This is a true act of Grace, which we can gift our selves with at any point in time.
Love and Bless, Strong Light.
