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Hey!

I’m Alexander

I’m a Medium Top Writer in Psychology, Mental Health and Self Improvement with a degree in psychology and certified in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). I previously trained in hypnotherapy.

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I’ve come from a place of personal social anxiety, anxiety, occasional depression, low self-esteem and more. Also laziness and lack of direction.

I beat it. I’m better now. I’m happy now. I think better. Things are clearer. I’m still lazy sometimes, but that’s ok.

I want to help others do that. I hope I can provide…


Big changes solve problems. Then you move on to tackle bigger problems. So if the problems keep getting bigger, what’s the point?

Conceptual drawing of a man being examined with a magnifying glass.
Conceptual drawing of a man being examined with a magnifying glass.

I had an amazing introduction to the whole self-help thing. I’d never really even heard of it. Yet, while reading an introduction to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) book, I felt like I was having revelation after revelation.

It genuinely felt magical.

I’d come from a low point in my life, and I’d committed to making myself a better person. I’d committed to not stopping until I was finally a confident, happy person.

It continued for years. I found more books from all sorts of angles. More self-help. I learned about all kinds of therapy. Things really felt like they were changing.


Actors. Therapists. Hostage negotiators. They’re the masters of making connections, fast.

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There are people who have to make immediate connections with others because their jobs depend on it. They need reliable and repeatable ways they can count on. In some cases, lives are on the line if a connection isn’t made. As a result, these methods are unbelievably simple.

Therapists, hostage negotiators and actors are masters of connection. Luckily, I’ve both taught acting at a top-class arts university and am certified in therapy, so I can shed some light here. …


Your mind will run a mile, but answering it is how we make the pain go away.

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Imagine there’s something going on in your life, and if you only knew the truth, your life would improve beyond recognition. Your greatest source of agony, gone.

For many of us, that thing exists. And we know exactly what it is. We just don’t tell ourselves. Instead, we hide it behind layers of protective psychology. There it stays, behind the curtain, hurting us.

Try answering this:

What’s the big thing in your life that you’re refusing to accept?

The reason we struggle to answer it is built into the question. We’re refusing to accept it so won’t tell ourselves. But…


How a few words of nonsense can get people to act on your requests

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There’s an effective way to get people to do what you want, and all it involves is a few extra words. Those words don’t even need to say anything of use. Nothing whatsoever.

Take this viral meme doing the rounds on social media that’s getting some wild interaction. It reads like this:

“What happens in your head when you do 27 + 48? PLEASE respond I’m tryna see something.”

People are responding in droves. The first half of this, the math question, had a small viral impact a few months ago. …


If we don’t get out of a rut by ourselves, the way out is very often painful.

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If you’re in a rut, there are often just two ways out: The carrot or the stick. You don’t want the stick. I’ve had it, and it’s horrible. But there’s a less painful way out, if only we’ll take it. The carrot.

This article is about being in a lifestyle rut, not in a period of depression. If you think you may have depression, please consult a professional for help.

Ryan’s in a Rut

I’m going to introduce you to an old housemate of mine called Ryan. He was in the very epitome of a rut.

Ryan’s diet is the perfect demonstration of his…


The gap between who we are and who we aim to be only highlights our inadequate feelings. There's a better way.

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There’s something I see a lot in people trying to improve themselves. Something I fell for too that can derail us constantly in our missions to improve. But in seeing the problem in myself and others, I also eventually saw a way around it. It’s worked for me ever since, every time.

Here’s the problem

When we’re striving to better ourselves, there’s something we’re so often painfully aware of:

We’re not up to standard yet. We can’t yet do the thing that we see others doing, the thing that we want to be able to do, or feel, or not feel. …


A guide to mental health first-aid.

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Mental Health First-Aid

It can be hard to know what to do when a friend is struggling with their mental health. It’s good to be prepared.

Different people have different issues, but this standard first-aid plan is the same for most, with a few things to know for specific conditions. If you know people with these things, make sure you know what you need to. Otherwise, it’s good to be prepared with the general first-aid system. You never know when you might need it.

This is standard first-aid advice for mental health issues. It won’t turn you into a therapist, just as an…


Develop the perfect blend of thinking like a rich person and a poor person

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At 35 I had no money. I was working part-time, making just enough to live. Then something changed, and my finances U-turned.

It’s surprisingly easy to reach 35 with unchallenged bad money habits. It’s surprisingly hard to realise you’re approaching 40 and still have nothing. But whatever your age, the best time to start is now.

I now have money in the bank. I have five figures in cryptocurrencies, more in savings and more again in stocks. I’m making more than ever before, but I don’t have a high paying job, and I’m not rich. …


The results were positive

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In 2020 when much of the world was in pandemic lockdown and socialising beyond work and households became a rarity, one group of strangers got the unusual opportunity to socialise in the name of science — naked. And with wine optional.

The researchers were studying body image, and wondered what effect being naked around strangers would have on us. It’s long been rumoured that nudists are happier with their body images, but is that just because people who don’t like their bodies simply don’t get naked on nudist beaches? Is it even true? Researchers think they have an answer.

The…

Alexander M. Combstrong

Breakthrough therapy advocate/mental health progressive. Psychology fanatic. Actor/screenwriter. Forge, Better Humans, PS I Love You, The Ascent, Mind Cafe

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