Hotwife Epiphany

Alexis McCall
Jul 23, 2017 · 6 min read

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Men sometimes seem surprised when they write to me and ask for help and after one or two emails they think that one of my two Super Powers is mind reading. They wonder if I’m looking in their bedroom window because I seem to know a lot more about their relationship than I should.

It’s nothing like that. I have been doing this for a long time now. I have heard it all. Not only have I heard it all, I hear it all pretty much weekly. I am a data collector. I’m not smarter than anyone else, but when anyone hears the same thing over and over, you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to see a pattern.

Trust me when I tell you, there are not that many different paths a man can take in order to convince his wife to open up her end of the marriage because of his desire to share her with other men.

My explanation to these men is that no, I’m not spying on you. The thing is, you are in the forest and you can’t see the way, because all you see are trees.

I’m looking at the bigger picture because I am hovering around over head and I can see the whole forest. Not only can I see the whole forest, I can see every path that leads anywhere fruitful, and I can see the paths that are going to walk you right off the cliff.

So I am working with a publisher on a project related to this Hotwife Alternative Marriage Lifestyle. I like this woman a lot. She doesn’t know much about the Lifestyle but she does know how to tell a story and ask me really good questions in order to try and help me.

I was explaining to her how I do what I do, and about the mind reading accusation that I hear pretty often from men. That conversation took us in a totally different direction because she wanted to know if women who write to me ever think that mind reading is one of my two Super Powers.

I didn’t even have to think about it. Women just seem to understand that I know what I know and I can explain things to them better than their husband’s can. Not to mention that I can answer all of their questions. I have been where they are. Michael and I had no one to ask back then. He was getting all his Lifestyle ideas from the photo caption writers. Sound familiar?

The next question she asked me was a question I should have known the answer to but didn’t. I instantly wondered if maybe I had become lost in the forest myself. The question she asked me was what percent of my email is from women.

I wasn’t sure. I used to know because for the first few years I was helping people with Lifestyle Information and Advice, it started out to be 100% from men and slowly by the end of the second year it was about 80–20.

After that, I sort of lost track. I knew that women were writing to me a hell of a lot more than they were in the beginning, but when I began publishing in the mainstream media Blogosphere, the number of women who write to me went way up.

When I got home from my meeting I did the research I needed to do in order to answer her question. Hence, (I love that word) my Hotwife Epiphany. I discovered that over the past few months, I am getting almost as much Lifestyle email from women as men.

So what did that mean? I wasn’t sure. Because I’m not smarter than anyone else, and because I’m not even a real doctor, I decided to ask my brain trust. I put the question out to my advisory committee, Dr. Lexi’s Coconut Telegraph.

It’s a loose association of experienced real life day to day soccer moms who have contacted me over the time I have been Coaching, and offered to help because they agreed with my original reason for doing what I do which is, there is not a lot of reliable information out there in the Ether.

So why is that? Why isn’t this Lifestyle discussed more openly in the mainstream media? I actually know the answer to that one. It’s like Masturbation. Everyone does it, but most people don’t talk about it.

It’s a combination of things. It’s partly because of fear of the Moral’s Police. It is also partly because of fear of being ridiculed by your peers as being a sick fuck if you are a married guy and you admit to your friends that you have a desire to share your wife with other men.

Ever since I have been advising couples about this amazing Hotwife Alternative Marriage Lifestyle, I have been advising them to keep it to themselves. This was a lesson Michael and I learned the hard way.

We were partying with our boating friends when this subject came up for the first time when Michael made his drunk proclamation that the thought of me having sex with other men excited him.

It seemed reasonable for us to share that information with those same friends when I actually began dating other men. What happened was that we became a pariah in the group. We were no longer “normal”.

Some of the men contacted me privately wanting to sneak me out. All of the wives became jealous, correctly assuming that their husbands would be after me. The bottom line is that we stopped being included. I guess there really is no honor among thieves!

But there is a lot more going on here with my increased online gender specific email numbers than just my visibility in more mainstream venues, according to my brain trust, because even though I have a more mainstream presence now, people still have to search for Lifestyle information using search terms, like Hotwife, Wife Sharing, Married But Dating, Open Marriage, Alternative Marriage, Etc.

I have maintained since Day One, that women are generally more sexually open minded than men. Is that simply my own gender bias? I don’t think so, but I did get a very early start. I became sexually active at fifteen. I’m not talking about being closer to sixteen either. I’m talking about being closer to fourteen. Most girls spend quite a bit of time being sexually curious before taking any kind of meaningful action.

Not me! I jumped in with both feet so to speak, the very first time I was touched there by an older boy that knew how to do it! I liked it way too much! The reason I was popular with the older boys was because of my bra size. My first experience with sex was a good one so I wanted more and never looked back.

Cosmo tends to back me up on my opinion about women and expressing their sexuality. The last article I read about married women having extramarital affairs indicated that the percentage of married women having affairs is higher than that of married men. If I read it in Cosmo, it has to be the truth right?

So where is all this information leading me? Once I had my Hotwife Epiphany and discovered that just as many women are writing to me as men, AND, (this is a huge and) they both have to search in order to find either my blog, or my website, that seems to point to the fact that women are just as curious as men about getting real truthful information about the Hotwife Lifestyle.

Men should be taking notes here because this is a pretty major revelation. Having said that, please keep in mind I am not a real doctor, and not into statistical analysis, or anything like that.

I am a Lifestyle blogger. I am a Lifestyle Coach for those who want advice about the Lifestyle. I am telling you that for whatever reason, my first time incoming email gender ratio is just about 50–50.

If you are a man who has the very normal fantasy of wanting to share your wife with other men, keep it to yourself. If that fantasy of wanting to share her with other men has become a desire you want to turn into a reality, tell her. Chances are pretty good she will be open minded about it so long as you have a healthy Intimate relationship with Open and Honest Communication.

Who knows? Maybe she has even already written to me wanting to know how it works!

Alexis McCall

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Hotwife Lifestyle blogger, lifestyle coach, and Wife Sharing advocate. Write to me at AlexisMcCall35@Yahoo.com or my website AlexisMcCall.com.

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