Hotwife Hard Stuff

August 31, 2016

Let me warn you right up front if you are expecting this Post to be about the business end of a Hotwife’s date you are going to be disappointed.

Many of you are not going to read this when the subject matter becomes clear and that’s OK. I’m not writing it for you, I’m writing it because it’s part of my stated mission of helping real couples who may be considering the Hotwife Alternative Marriage Lifestyle, find some gold nuggets in the river sand.

This Post is about the Religious/Moral aspects of a woman whose marriage is open on her end so that she can fulfill her husband’s fantasy of sharing her with other men sexually.

So first let’s be clear on my bias here. I am a practicing Hotwife OK? I regularly meet men for sex outside my marriage because it’s what my husband wants me to do. That act of fulfilling his fantasy by dating other men and then sharing the details with him makes our own marriage better and stronger.

I received several emails after my last Post about some of the strange email Dr. Lexi receives when I mentioned “Adultery” as an example of some of the hate mail I receive from members of the Morals Police whenever I mention this subject.

I said that what a Hotwife does in the course of fulfilling her husband’s fantasy does not meet the standards for the definition of breaking that particular Commandment. I didn’t go into a lot of detail then but I’m going to do that now because I got several emails last week asking for more information. So here is the long version.

“Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery!” That is the Commandment I am referring to. Now admittedly, I did not write either the Commandment, nor the fairly universally agreed upon definition of the term “Adultery”.

So because of that I can only read the Commandment, then read the definition of the word “Adultery”, and use my own brain power to either make the link or not make the link. I have already stated the Commandment, so here is the definition of Adultery:



adultery — extramarital sex that willfully and maliciously interferes with marriage relations; “adultery is often cited as grounds for divorce”

Here is another one:

1. a·dul·ter·ess


noun noun: adulteress, plural noun: adulteresses

o 1. a married woman who has sex with a man who is not her husband without his knowledge : a woman who commits adultery.

OK this is a good place for me to say there are dozens of definitions of these same two words. Some are more expansive. Some are less informational. I’m not here to tell you how to think. You have your own brain power for that. I’m only telling you what I think.

I think that Hotwife sex is not Adultery and a Hotwife is not an Adulteress. A Hotwife has not only her husband’s knowledge and consent, she also has his encouragement. Hotwife sex does not interfere with marital relations it enhances them.

In order to save you all some time emailing me here is a question I always get:

“But Dr. Lexi, what about when a hotwife has sex with a married guy that is cheating on his wife?”

That’s his issue not hers. He is committing Adultery. She is not! Many of you know that in addition to being a Hotwife, I am also a prostitute. I mention this here only to point out that in my case there is no difference in how I view what I do either way since I have the consent and encouragement of my husband, career wise as well. He has knowledge of my work trips too.

So that’s that. That’s the long version. If you have questions, send me an email unless your questions are religious in nature. I am not a religious scholar.

If you disagree with me then my suggestion is to do what I did and become a Blogger. If you don’t have the energy for that then send me some hate mail instead. I’m going to get some anyway from the Morals Police.