This is an extraordinary essay. It is so good, on a personal level, to be reminded to let oneself off the hook, and to all oneself to be less than perfect. And, it is even more important to be reminded to let others off the hook, as well. As a society I think we are incredibly judgmental of one other, based solely on the snippets of interactions or observations we make in fleeting moments. As your essay points out, our lives are much deeper and wider than those brief vignettes, and in reality, we are more alike than we are different. Perhaps by allowing others to be imperfect, we will find a way to be more forgiving of ourselves. Brava!