Consideration for others and kindness didn’t keep you in an abusive relationship . That is distorted thinking .
Because you made selfish choices ( choices based on selfish and self seeking motives) to stay in an abusive relationship.
I get it , I do.
But you’ve got it all wrong.
What you’re trying to do is get your power back.
Just don’t get it twisted.
Selfish choices is what made you stay. It is what actually caused your pain and making more selfish choices rooted in pain, will only delay your true healing. .