I think your off a little here.. gay men focus more on body, because they understand the male sexuality which is vapid. Men like pretty things. They are way more visual than women. They get excited off of what they see.
This is why , women feel more of an insecurity, than men. Men can age, men can gain weight , and still be attractive , esp if they have money and personality.
Women on the other hand? Not so much. Probably the only thing that will transcend those things is a healthy sexual drive , I mean very healthy. And that might only get her in with some perverted men.