Why wouldn’t you be ok with someone you love , having feelings still for an ex ?
I think this relationship general rule of thumb is bullshit.
If you have ever been in love, that love isn’t going nowhere … it is going to carve a piece of your heart for itself and go to sleep.
Yes. You can love again. You can fall in love again. But a part of you will always love who you have fallen in love with in the past.
I think people demand some bullshit myth because they can’t accept that they’re not the best .. they cant accept that to truly love another , you must let them be free , free to think , to feel, to do. And none of it will be about you. Love is about so much more than feeling good, feeling safe.
For me, being loved and loving someone means as I am, as you are. I am not here to conquer a man’s heart… no way. I am here to admire it. To learn about it. To listen to it. To soothe it.
Every single women who this man has loved , has made him who he is. She is a part of him, and in a strange way, I love her too. I must, if I love him.
So she gets to stay.
And I do too.
I don’t mind … I don’t need anyone to give me everything they are. I don’t want to own anyone. I do want to give you what I have for you.
I would run a million miles an hour away from anyone who demanded I become someone else for them. That is not love to me. That is selfish .. that is hateful. That is the worst thing anyone could ask of me, to give up myself.
