True friendship is truly a genuine companionship
In dedication to my dear friend, my companion
When I look at life and the many friendships/ relationships I’ve had, not many really had a true companionship looking back now that I am 27 years old. How many of us can actually say that our friend is truly our companion. I believe it is a rare gem and something that we don’t come across until after sometimes and loss of friendships/relationships we honestly believed would last forever.
The meaning of companionship is that state of being friends, but it goes deeper than even a friendship. It is a closeness and/or familiarity, a true fellowship among two people who for whatever reasons have truly connected. In addition to this is that person who can trust with your life. A person who you can have any conversation with whether it be good, bad, sad or happy. A person who understands you on multiple levels and at times understands you better than you may understand yourself.
I have now reached the point where my circle of friends has become drastically smaller, some of those friendships have just faded because we have grown apart. To be honest, I believe it is normal that those who we were really close to within our late teens/early twenties we are no longer friends with because who we were at 19, 20, 21 years of age, we are no longer that person come our mid to late 20s. They say once we pass 25 years of age, we now take on the serious realities of life and at this point have laid down a solid foundation on our characteristic traits and they are less likely to change as we get older. Once we hit our late 20s we become more selective about how we spend our time and who we spend our time with…and this is outside the thought of settling down and starting a family. We have now learned enough lessons in friendship to know who is really worth our time. We now become ok with saying that all those “friends” who happen to know my name at that event last night and claim the “that’s my home girl or that’s my bro” those ‘friends” are really just acquaintances. More than likely those “friends” will not around when you need them most. Some of us may not really know who that person is that really will be there for us in that hour of need. Beware of those friends who say almost the same exact thing to you as they do to every other friend. They all sell the same exact story which can be dissipative and hard to see which one is the real companion, but your gut will tell you who it is and if you have found the real friend, that true companion. It is just a matter of letting your ego go and actually listening to what your intuition is telling.
Originally published at www.amaliah.co on December 27, 2015.
