I never said trump inciting an insurrection was an attack on free speech. trump used his free speech just fine. I said Republicans failing to hold trump responsible for inciting an attack on our country shows they in no way "denounced" the riot. Had they taken the riot seriously, they would've punished the ringleader, as happens in any criminal case. trump repeatedly said he wanted to take away the American Free Press's rights to free speech. He called freedom of the press in America "Disgusting." He's the only American president to ever suggest curbing the First Amendment.


You too can achieve this look

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I’m not entirely sure why, but I have almost completely given up on my appearance as of late. Yeah, I know people have been joking about sweats culture right now, but I feel like it’s more than that for me. At this point it’s almost like … a protest.

I haven’t worn makeup in months. Why bother? Half my face is covered by a mask and the other half is covered by glasses, because I sure as shit am not going to waste my daily disposable contacts on the apocalypse. I only wear sports bras. Over the sports bras I…


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  • You saw kids shoulder-rolling on flattened cardboard boxes in parking lots, and super Gen X if you were one of the kids actually doing the shoulder rolling.
  • You can recite most of Caddyshack.
  • You’ve seen Def Leppard, Run DMC, The Go-Go’s, Duran Duran or any of the Jacksons in concert.
  • You’ve looked up phone numbers in a phone book, used a paper map and written a check.
  • You remember a time before personal computers, home video gaming systems and cable television
  • You’ve heard the phrase “Neo-maxi-zoom-dweebie,” and super Gen X if you know what movie it comes from.
  • You know…

In so many ways beyond COVID-19

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(Image by Miroslava Chrienova from Pixabay)

One of my family’s favorite Christmastime traditions is venturing out from our comfortable college town into Kansas City to see Union Station decorated for the holidays. Like most Union Stations in this country, ours is massive inside, a gorgeous colossus of Beaux-Arts architecture dressed in polished marble and fancy architectural flourishes.

It’s magical to experience the gargantuan decorated Christmas trees, the oversized wreaths, and ribbons and ornaments. There’s an expansive model train exhibit to pore over, and there’s a child-sized electric train from the 1930s encircling one of the behemoth Christmas trees that’s large enough for little kids to take…


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Cover illustration from Harriet the Spy by Louise Fitzhugh.

There were three big influences in my growing up to become a writer: My fourth grade teacher, Mrs. Richter, who gave me endless encouragement, my literary hero Mark Twain, and Harriet M. Welsch.

If you don’t know who Harriet M. Welsch is, she’s the precocious protagonist of the young adult novels Harriet the Spy and The Long Secret, by Louise Fitzhough.

Harriet was fearless. She literally spied on people. She didn’t just eavesdrop or play pretend spy. She carried a freaking notebook, snuck into people’s homes if she had too, and took down notes about them. She was a daring…


And I’m not going back

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Image by Javier Robles from Pixabay

Like so many white progressive Americans, I assumed the election, and then re-election, of Barack Obama signaled a turning point for this nation. Racism was on the retreat. America was moving forward. The dream of the American melting pot was being realized.

We were progressing.

The smack of reality — not just when trump was elected, but in subsequent months when it became clear his vile conduct wasn’t a deal-breaker for thirty percent of Americans — was honestly shocking to many of us white folks.

I was never under any delusion racism was still a problem in the US. I…


America is Being Held Hostage by an Abuser

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Image by Tibor Janosi Mozes from Pixabay

Recently, The Week reported that Fox anchor and presidential debate moderator Chris Wallace is “Sad.” He is sad because President Trump didn’t adhere to the presidential debate rules as he promised he would.

“I never dreamt that it would go off the tracks the way it did,” he told the Times, adding that, despite his lengthy journalism career, “I’ve never been through anything like this.”

You know who knew exactly how the first presidential debate would go? Every single person in this country who’s lived with an abuser.

Whether it was your partner, or an older sibling, a bully at…

Amber Fraley

Writer, Kansan, wife, mom, essayist, journalist, reproductive rights activist, Jayhawk, dork. amberfraley. com @AmberFraley123 @KSAbortionFund

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