The Most Important Word Is AND
So as divisiveness continues to plague us. the option for acceptance, love, and coexistence is falling out of the favor and by the wayside.
Division and conflict has been accentuated by the ugliness of the most recent election and representative political divide, economic and gender inequality, inner city violence, racial and religious tensions, worldwide terrorism, and global conflict from Syria to the South China Sea.
This has even infiltrated the functioning of our government, social institutions, and free media big time, where vetting, negotiation and compromise, critical thinking, and fair, balanced, and investigative journalism have been largely jettisoned.
There is no place anymore to go hide from bias, bigotry, and hate.
But as the wise proverb goes things truly are not just black and white, but there are loads of grey everywhere
Many people are not good or evil, left or right, blessed or cursed.
Instead, most people are a mixture of this AND that.
How much of the complex mix of different elements is what makes up the integrity and life of the individual, group, and organization we are dealing with.
But what’s important is that you really can’t just stereotype people, ideas, or actions as simply good or bad because in reality, they aren’t.
Each person and position has elements of good and bad in them…nothing and nobody in life is perfect.
You take the good and the bad in everything from relationships to policy decisions.
So it is certainly possible and even probable to be conflicted and confused about what we see and hear — and not only because of the bias and prejudice in how it is presented or portrayed, but rather because things are not just simple, one or the other propositions, but rather a combination of things we approve of and disapprove of.
Our brains can have lots of trouble dealing with this complexity, because we are wired in terms of survival of the fittest, and that often means choosing a action based on split-second categorizing of people and things as friend or foe.
As the mere shadow of the person or idea is upon us, we are asked to respond — do we run or fight it or do we lovingly embrace it as it overtakes us.
Choose wrong and you can be badly hurt or even dead.
But we are forced to make these quick and bold choices without always having the luxury of time, the patience, or wherewithal to stop and recognize that things and people are a combination of things we like and agree with and others that we dislike and vehemently oppose.
If we could just keep in mind that most things are not just good or bad, right or wrong, but good AND bad, right AND wrong, then we can make more astute and fine-tuned designations of what we think something really is and isn’t and how to handle it, live with it, and faithfully coexist with it.
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)