Not Your Grandma’s Family History

Family history makes your family stronger. But what’s IN family histories these days might not be what you’re thinking…

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I’m talking to moms about family history, and uncovering with some regularity moms’ desires for their kids to know who they were before becoming parents!

Many of us are starting families in our 30s and beyond — an age at which we’ve had full lives before becoming parents. And we want our kids to know about those parts of our lives.

While talking to a mom about what to capture in her upcoming oral history, we got on to mosh pits — you know, like you do. Later, I mentioned to my kids that I’d been in a mosh pit once at a Fugazi show while in grad school, and my kids (10 and 14) knew nothing about mosh pits, early alternative rock, or Fugazi. Why would they?

And I realized (again) that the 90s were a full generation ago, that alternative rock ain’t what it used to be, and that our kids won’t know about any of that, its importance to us, or what we are like as people — unless we tell them. That’s often the way with music history. Much like swing, punk, and disco, that early alternative rock marked a historical moment for a very specific group of young-ish people.

I’m learning that kids aren’t the only ones who feel stronger when they know their family history. Moms do, too! I’ve written before about The Path to the Present, and while one path may be a century old, there’s also lot to be said about the last several decades! It’s a lot to think about, but the most important part is to start… and you can do that tonight!

Dinnertime Family History gives you five prompts to talk for 5 nights about your generation and your parents’. Get your free guide OVER HERE and start tonight!

I build family history projects — to memorialize and pay tribute to a loved one, to trace a path from sharecropping to the ivy leagues, to understand the family rascal — or whatever you’d like. To learn more about Capturing Family Oral History take a lookie over here.


Originally published at funnermother.wordpress.com on October 26, 2017.