To The Wait

Nuggets on the Process

Anjola Akinrinola
Jul 23, 2017 · 2 min read

One careful consideration, I decided to define the process as a conglomeration of different experiences and events that not only place you at the right place at the right time but inadvertantly fully equips for that opportune moment.

The reality of the importance of the process hit me so hard again that even uttering: “I can’t wait to be (insert whatever)” doesn’t just feel weird, but very wrong.

I can wait to “blow”.

I can wait till marriage.

I can wait for him/her.

I can wait.

As a nation, we can wait till our change comes.

Why?

Because our entire outlook and everything we’ll achieve when we get “there” is trapped in our “here”.

Our incessant need to get out of our wait into living our dreams is what primarily informs most of our dissatisfaction with the end product. True, it is what you’ve “always wanted” but the wait required to truly and fully bask in the fullness of your achievement was rushed through. While we were busy “can’t wait”-ing, we were losing the very lessons that enable us to thrive in our expected ends.

I must say that there’s an activity to this “waiting” that differentiates it from lazy passiveness. Nothing but decay is achieved when we lie fallow. In my experience, only in few cases does inactivity not result in steady decline and decay ultimately.

It’s this wait that epitomises a semi-hallmark of diligence and discipline. Both concepts - related but totally separate entities - boil down to part action and part wait. Our diligence or discipline in a particular endeavour is a waste without a balance of action and wait.

As universal as the concept of the wait may sound, there’s an individuality, a uniqueness, to the situations that constitute our wait. We’re made and moulded by them, unassumingly sculpted and framed to fit perfectly and meet the demands we are to face.

Ironical, how this not-so-sudden burst of insight hits home at a time of personal failure in the art of waiting. Sometimes - most times - foolishness is revealed in hindsight. I write in hope that the wisdom I now pree whilst looking back is enough foresight for myself (going forward) and someone else.

Anjola Akinrinola

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