You need to chill out: A letter to my High School senior self.
Hey senior year me. CHILL. The majority of things that you’re stressing about now will likely be the last things on your mind come college. I know you feel the urgency of finding just the right fuzzy rug in the exact right color for the right price that coordinates with your and your roommates matching bedding. Its IMPORTANT. An absolute must.
Guess what? Come October, you won’t even be living with that particular person anymore, +while you pack up your stuff at 3am to move dorms in less than 2 hours, the last thought that will be going through your mind is “Man, maybe I should stay so that the bedding matches the rug.”
The roommate you swore to everyone that you spoke to that you “perfectly click” with ends up being a relationship that isn’t healthy, +you move dorms mid semester with a random roommate.
The class you swore would be a breeze because you “think like that” ends up being HANDS DOWN the most impossible class of your existence.
The group you think you will “fit in” with ends up being people that don’t share the same morals with.
And guess what, its okay.
This year, I’ve challenged myself to dwell on those words. + LET ME TELL YOU, it’s been a challenge.
I’d really, really, really, really, reallllllly like to tell you that I have it all together.
But I don’t. + likely never will.
And thats okay, I’m human.
Embrace the messy+ the difficult + the new + the different. Take it head on + learn from it. Use it to grow and challenge yourself. Let is be an opportunity to become vulnerable. Remember that you are human.+ that things ARE NOT going to always go the way you planned. Use those moments, don’t run from them. Allow it to change you + better you.
be more human
Here are the things I wish I could tell myself a year ago:
- Savor these moments. I know you’re ready to break free +get away and do whatever you want. I was too. And its amazing. But there are things I wish I wouldn’t have rushed. Build that relationship with your parents, spend time with them. Honestly, its an easier transition for you than for them. Because you’re having all the fun, and they are getting the E-bill for it.
- Don’t worry about the small things. Like I mentioned above, I spent a small fortune (and a TON) of time planning and buying the “perfect” dorm things. Although that monogrammed laundry bag is adorable, after a week, its going to be shoved in the back of your microscopic closet because the floor is a much better catcher of laundry.
- Don’t neglect your own needs. There are ALWAYS people around + things to do. Remember that you have to take care of yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Sleep when you need to, fuel your body with more than pizza + protein bars, + stay active. If nothing else, it keeps you sane.
- Let people pour into you. This time is so amazing, but its hard. Let those that have walked through it help you out. Let those mentors and upperclassman friends befriend you. Be open +vulnerable with them, don’t close yourself off. They’ve been through it, + genuinely want a friendship with you. Let them.
- Be open to adventure. College has SO many amazing opportunities. Take them. Don’t be so worried about your image that you miss out on things. Take a risk. Try something. Go on the date. Repel down the side of the mountain (true story.) Ditch the *reputation* + try something just for the heck of it. You might be amazed what comes from it.
- Find your tribe. Coming into college, I had an “ideal” of the people I would become friends with. + in my mind they looked a lot like me. (one of me is more than enough to deal with.) Find people from different backgrounds, different lifestyles, and those who have different interests. It makes your life a whole lot more interesting, and broadens your perspective. Surround yourself with diversity + get out of your comfort zone.
Keep an open mind + be more human.