I always say that it’s a juggle, not a balance. I also completely disagree that we can/must be happy in both work and family. Sometimes you just can’t win on both fronts, but you can draw energy from the happier pieces of life to power you through the tougher ones. I have a very challenging child and home life is often frustrating and wearying, but I enjoy my work a lot and can look forward to that aspect of each day. When work gets low, I pull energy from other places — cooking, for example. I agree that it’s best to enjoy all of it, but it’s not always possible.