When we start working in a new job, and after all the brouhaha dies down, we soon realise who people really are; there’s nothing quite like a deadline to bring out the worst (or best) in people. Sometimes our first impressions are accurate but sometimes they’re wrong. So how can we really know people’s true colours.
From the moment we step foot into the office, we start gathering information about your fellow workers (also known as judging).
These judgements usually fall into two categories. Is this person friendly? And, is this person going to help me?
Two social neuroscientists (from NYU and Princeton) published a fascinating article on how we perceive others. For example, we think and feel differently about firefighters compared to the elderly. We also tend to subconsciously view the homeless or drug addicts in a de-humanised way. Even more interesting was how the pictures of the different types of people evoked different emotions (pride, envy, disgust). This phenomenon is known as clustering. We don’t have enough time to learn all the facts about a person’s life, or take the time to fully get to know them, and so make snap judgements. We pigeon-hole people.
I spoke to a successful University Professor and she said she always makes a point of leaving her office door open. She is there for the people in her team — literally, they just have to ask. By making herself available and promoting an open door policy, she helps to create an environment of psychological safety in her team. People feel comfortable around her because she makes it seem like she is never rushed for time (although in truth she probably has an impressive to-do list).
Putting people first is not always possible though (we are here to work after all!). But what we can do is start to understand how we interact with the people in our office and know that our opinion of them will influence how we feel about them.
Are people friendly, proactive and selfless? Or are people aloof and selfish?
There are four types of people in the office: the super-star, the cruiser, the unreliable, and the blatant-self-promoter.
The super-star is the person who get’s things done and is a pleasure to work with. Not only are they engaging, inspirational and influential, but they somehow manage to make great decisions consistently. Super-stars are the people you want on your team. They give more than they take and they do more than they talk. They also do all of this with style!
Friendliness is free after all!
Notes & References
1. Image courtesy of FreePik. Thank-you. ‘http://www.freepik.com/free-vector/stamped-star-icons_786216.htm‘>Designed by Freepik
2. Harris, L. T., & Fiske, S. T. (2009). Social neuroscience evidence for dehumanised perception. European review of social psychology, 20(1), 192–231.
3. Jonas Ellison (2015) Want to save the world? Smile more.