After Marriage, Men who Focus on These Four Areas are Doomed to Divorce
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“I have walked across many bridges, seen countless clouds, tasted various types of wine, but loved only one person at the best age.”
Fate is predetermined, happiness is self-made. Sometimes, if we don’t seize the opportunity to meet the right person at the right age, we might miss out.
Some people always think that marriage will bring stability, with a car and a house, everything will be smooth sailing.
Marriage is a ceremony, a house and a car provide security, but what keeps a marriage together is not rituals or material possessions, but the heart.
Marriage requires great courage and determination. It’s a choice made out of willingness.
Others may give you hope, but naturally, they will also bring disappointment. Marrying someone is based on hope, but divorcing is often due to increasing disappointment.
Marriage doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t need flattery. All we want is a sincere marriage and a beautiful companionship.
A woman who doesn’t feel secure in her marriage will also feel unsettled. When she finally decides to leave, it’s because she’s had enough.
Men who focus their energy on these four areas after marriage are destined for divorce.
Focusing on Other Women
“You can never wake up someone pretending to be asleep.”
Only women who have been hurt by men understand the meaning of this phrase. When a man betrays his marriage, the woman feels utterly devastated. A man planning to betray his wife should be prepared for divorce because a self-respecting woman will not tolerate betrayal.
In the entertainment industry, many actors have been exposed for cheating on their spouses. While the public may forget after a while, the pain remains with the people involved forever.
Men who cheat on their marriages, focusing on other women, will eventually end up divorced.
In a marriage, disagreements may happen, but betrayal is a line that should never be crossed. Love is between two people and cannot accommodate a third party.
Focusing on Exes
“I’m not afraid of your past relationships. I’m afraid that even after marrying me, your heart still belongs to someone else.”
Some people marry a kind and gentle spouse but continue to harbor feelings for their exes.
Some men, after a failed relationship, tend to seek a new partner who resembles the previous one.
For instance, in the entertainment industry, there’s Wang Sicong, who swiftly changes girlfriends, with each new girlfriend resembling the previous one.
If a man continues to focus on his exes after marriage, it will eventually lead to divorce.
No woman can tolerate her husband’s heart belonging to someone else, nor can she tolerate him frequently meeting his exes. Loyalty in a marriage is a bottom line.
Nitpicking at Wife’s Flaws
“When getting married, keep your eyes wide open; after marriage, close one eye.”
Everyone has flaws. Sometimes what one sees as a flaw is considered a good habit by another.
Some men constantly nitpick at their wives’ flaws, blowing them out of proportion. Constant arguments over trivial matters can lead to a fading relationship and eventually, divorce.
Smart individuals know how to nurture their marriage, accepting each other’s imperfections. Focusing on trivial matters and constantly criticizing one’s wife can lead to marital dissatisfaction.
Everything Revolves Around Work
Men should have their careers and goals but should not neglect their families.
Some men dedicate all their time to work, neglecting their families, leading to conflicts and even depression in their spouses.
Work is essential, but it should not overshadow everything else. Men should understand that work is for the betterment of the family. Failing to balance work and family can lead to conflicts and dissatisfaction for both partners.
Marriage requires effort. Men need to understand their roles, boundaries, and prioritize their family’s well-being.
Regardless, men post-marriage should invest time and effort at home, consider their wives’ emotional state, and love their spouses.
