This story/tale was a bizarre read. Not because it was unrealistic or the point was not clear, but because, as a man, I could never speak to a woman who loved me, and whom I loved, in that manner. So personally, I cannot relate (and I hope I never will).
I know both genders disrespect their significant others this way but, wow. In these situations in real life, I am always hoping the one who shows consistent love and understanding, leaves. To be taken advantage of is something no one deserves. Let the one doing the verbal (and emotional) damage lose a rare thing (true love) and attempt to replicate it. They will quickly become aware of the love they lost.
That is the only way to learn in such instances.