Yes. Yes to all of this. You definitely get it.
I think we all wish there were a magic, foolproof solution to this. At least an instruction sheet or something. Recovery 101. And I do see a lot of articles about “do this to beat that.” So it ends up being important to remind each other that we can be supportive even if our needs are at opposite ends of the spectrum. I know you get this, and it’s a beautiful thing to see.
I also avoid medication. Truthfully, medication scares the hell out of me. (My therapist assures me that this will go away if I just take the medication. Ha.) I wish that I could take a few pills and feel better, sometimes, but it’s not my path. It is other people’s path, and that’s okay too. In the end, if that’s all we can do for each other, just say “whatever your path is, it’s okay. I respect it, and I’m here,” that’s enough. No one deserves to go through this alone, but true understanding is rare. For me, finding someone who understands is cause for rejoicing.
You really do get it. And I appreciate it.