I’m so glad I found this.
Our experience is pretty much identical, except I’m an only child. My dad and I finally confronted each other about my mom’s illness in 2014 and we started telling our family/friends in 2015. I didn’t have any support before then and it wasn’t until recently I realized how important it is to take care of yourself.
My dad also became very depressed and suicidal in 2013, because of my mom and his career. I was in my last year of university. I didn’t know how I pulled through, but I did it.
My parents are now divorced and I live with my mom. She’s okay most of the time, but there are still bits here and there.
I was very much alone and neglected throughout my teenage and young adult years. I think I did the best I can to maintain my family balance while keeping my own life in line.
I spent most of my life caring for my family. I don’t know when I can start living for myself.
I think it’s important to educate and erase the stigma that’s tied to mental illnesses. There’s no reason for anyone to suffer in silence.